Hey everyone thanks for returning….Today’s topic is Toddlers and Talking. So I’m trying to understand why my son at age 25 months might need speech therapy… his pediatrician thinks so. They say about 15%-25% of young children have some kind of communication disorder. Boys tend to develop language skills a little later than girls, but in general, kids may be labeled “late-talking children” if they speak less than 10 words by the age of 18 to 20 months, or fewer than 50 words by 21 to 30 months of age.
We went for his 2 year old check up and shots and his pediatrician was very concerned about him not saying many words. She asked us several questions about him communicating with us and we reassured her that he communicates just fine, he just doesn’t talk. We ask him all the time “Hey Jack! Are you gonna talk today”? He tells us no by shaking his head no. We must ask him several times a day but he always shakes his head no. Lol We think Jack is super smart, well of corse we do we’re his parents. He knows his shapes, his colors, some of his letters and also some of his numbers. If we tell him to do something he goes and does it. Like feeding the dog or going to the trash can to throw something out.
Only a few months ago he started to say little things like ” momma and dadda” and I think ” bubbles”, now he is saying one of his sisters names and trying to say “Grammy”. I think that he is making progress, slowly but surely. I still question this whole speech therapy thing. First I say to myself ” Am I a bad mom for not taking him right away to therapy”? Then I say well maybe he’s just a late talker. I think I would be a little more concerned if he wasn’t communicating and wasn’t learning things.
I have ABC Mouse.com on my iPad and also other educational apps and he loves them. He uses my iPad like he was born with it in his hands. Sometimes I think he knows how to use it better than I do… lol This generation seems like they were born for technology. Sometimes I think these kids are too smart for their own good. So still the question is there. I think about it a hundred times a day. Should I get him in speech therapy? or should I just let him be him and let him develop on his own? I would really like to here from other moms who have boys because I never had to go through this with my girls. My girls were all talking by the time they were 2 and when I say talking I mean TALKING…. You could have a full conversation with those girls and boy were they bossy lol 😂 So come on Mom’s help me out and give me advice because this here blog is just the place to do so… Let me know that there are other boys out there who have the same situation. Give some advice… tell me your situations and what you did.
Below I posted some information that I found on the web and thought that it might be helpful in some way for other mom’s like me….
Talking and understanding speech go hand in hand. By listening to others, your child learns what words sound like and how to put a sentence together.
As a baby, she discovered first how to make sounds, then how to make those sounds into real words (“mama” and “dada” may have slipped out as early as 4 or 5 months). By the time she was a year old, she was trying to imitate the sounds around her (though you probably heard her babbling away in a language that only she could understand).
Now comes a period of extraordinary growth, as your toddler goes from speaking a few simple words to asking questions, giving directions, and even telling you stories she’s made up.
When and how it develops
Here’s a general idea of how you can expect your toddler’s verbal skills to progress. Keep in mind that every child is different. Children pick up language in stages, and kids may reach those stages at different times.
If your child varies somewhat from these general guidelines, don’t worry. (If he’s being raised in a bilingual environment, the number of words he can speak may be split between the two languages he’s learning.)
12 to 18 months
By his first birthday, your child will probably begin to use one or two words meaningfully. Over the next few months, he’ll try to copy words, and you may hear him babbling away as if he’s having a real conversation. He’ll even practice speech sounds, raising his tone when asking a question. He might say “Up-py?” when asking to be carried, for example.
Your toddler is learning the power of talking as a means of communicating his needs. Until he learns more words to get his ideas and desires across, he’ll probably combine his speech with gestures to show what he wants. He’ll reach his arms toward his favorite toy, for example, and say “ball.”
Some toddlers develop a whole sign language of gestures to communicate with their parents. Your child might put his fingers to his lips when he wants food, for example, or pound on the table when he’s frustrated.
Don’t worry if he struggles to get his meaning across now and then. This frustration is actually a healthy sign that he’s trying hard to communicate and cares whether you understand him.
By 18 months, your toddler will probably start making many common consonant sounds, such as t, d, n, w, and h. Learning to make these sounds is a watershed event, one that leads to the rapid vocabulary spurt that most children go through at this stage. Don’t expect to hear all these sounds in actual words yet. But you may hear him repeating them when he’s alone in his crib or playing with his toys.
19 to 24 months
Your child now understands simple commands and questions. Each month she’ll add more words to her vocabulary. Many of these words will be nouns that designate objects in her daily life, such as “spoon” and “car.”
During this phase your child may begin stringing two words together, making basic sentences such as “Carry me.” Since her grammar skills are still undeveloped, you’ll hear odd constructions such as “Me go.”
She’s understood for some time that she needs language and will attempt to name new objects as she observes the world around her. She may overextend the words she already knows, though, so that all new animals are called “dogs,” for example.
Starting around her second birthday, your child will begin using simple two- to four-word sentences and singing simple tunes. As her sense of self matures, she’ll use “me” to refer to herself, and she’s likely to tell you what she likes and doesn’t, what she thinks, and what she feels.
You may also hear her say, “Jenny want juice” or “Baby throw,” for instance. (Pronouns are tricky, so you may notice her avoiding them.)
25 to 30 months
Now that he has a bigger vocabulary, your toddler will begin to experiment with sound levels. For a while he may yell when he means to speak normally and whisper softly when answering a question, but he’ll find the appropriate volume soon enough.
He’s also starting to get the hang of pronouns, such as “I,” “me,” and “you.” Between ages 2 and 3, his working vocabulary will grow to 200 words or more. He’ll string nouns and verbs together to form complete but simple sentences, such as “I eat now.”
He’ll even get the hang of speaking about events that happened in the past. He may not quite understand the particulars of the past tense or plurals, though, so you’ll hear him say things like “I runned” or “I swimmed,” or “mouses” instead of “mice.” Sure, it’s cute, but it also shows that he’s picking up on the basic rules of grammar (that you add a d sound to a word if it happened yesterday, for example, and an s sound to make things plural).
At this age, your child will start answering simple questions, such as “Do you want a snack?” and “Where are your shoes?” If you notice that he doesn’t use two-word phrases, consistently echoes your familiar expressions, or doesn’t respond to his name, bring it up with your child’s doctor. Such behavior can be an early sign of a developmental delay.
31 to 36 months
By the time he turns 3, your child will be a more sophisticated talker. She’ll be able to carry on a sustained conversation and adjust her tone, speech patterns, and vocabulary to fit the person she’s talking to. For instance, she’ll often use simpler words with a peer (“I need go potty”) but more complex constructions with you (“I need to go to the bathroom”). She’ll also understand simple rules of grammar and use plurals and pronouns correctly.
By now, other adults, including strangers, should be able to understand almost everything your child says, which means you won’t have to do as much translating. She’ll even be a pro at saying her first and last name and her age – and will readily oblige when asked.
So give me your insight and why do you think… Should I just let him continue to develop on his own naturally? Or should I be concerned because other children his age are talking and he’s not? Does that mean I should get him into see someone as soon as possible? I would love to hear your thoughts and your answers to these questions. I’m hoping someone is going through the same thing with their child or they have in the past. Thanks ladies I appreciate all the advice!!